Why Depression?

A personal view on Depressed minds

‘Life is beautiful,' they said, ‘enjoy every moment of it.’ Life is beautiful and it is to be enjoyed by all people. Unfortunately, it is one of the most difficult things to do for many people. The world is a place where not everyone gets the privilege to enjoy life. Many suffer from different challenges. There are people from different families having different lifestyles and many find it difficult to enjoy most of life.

Depression has become a major issue in the modern world. It comes from various ways and different experiences. Many people find it difficult to enjoy life because of a depressed mind. Many had victory over depression, yet many gave in to depression which led to undesired consequences. While we blame the victim for not persevering with the suffering, we cannot underestimate the pain of being depressed.

Depression often gets worse when we got no one to rely on for our depressed minds. We live in a society where we often listen less and speak more. A depressed mind needs to be heard and cared for in order to overcome the challenge. Advice is not always helpful, sometimes silent listening to the depressed mind works best. Many suffer from depression yet are unable to discover the cause of suffering and therefore remain depressed. They need to be heard so that they can be helped.

The fear of rejection for telling the truth, and the nightmare of what would happen in life, with the uncertainties of the future are not to be undermined. Life is sometimes scary because the reality of life is often undermined. A person who commits a mistake does not want to tell anyone because if he does, society would reject him, the family would lecture him, and friends would ignore him. No one wants that to happen and therefore keeps it to himself till he no longer takes it and faces serious consequences that no one would understand. The fear of consequences for revealing one’s mistake is no joke. It needs to be listened to, to be cared for, and not lectured or ignored.

We live in a world where people are treated differently. While some enjoy good treatments, some suffer from favoritism. The introverts, and those who have timidity, or inferiority complex are being treated lowly which often leads to depression. As they are not outspoken, their minds are not heard, their troubles are not given attention and thus leading them to a depressed mind. Often, people listen more to the extroverts, and the introverts are often ignored. The efforts of the introverts are credited to the extroverts and the introverts are being underestimated.

There are people who suffer physical and mental abuse each and every single day. They cannot share with anyone because often the abuser acts so well that the victim continues to be a victim throughout life. There are so many people who act like gentlemen and wonder-women, yet keep abusing their spouse, family, or friends. The victims of these abuses cannot make any move because nobody will notice the wrong. Even if they do, they won’t do anything. The victims thus suffer depression and mental trauma which no one recognizes in them.

Depression can also be developed when someone we love turns against us by doing wrong things that we condemn. When our loved ones do something that we do not want to acknowledge or never want in a relationship, there is but to feel betrayed and deceived. More so, when people know something about them that you never knew, it is unbearable to discover and accept such revelations. Worse is when our voice cannot make difference in their lives but makes things worse.  It is but to feel depressed and eventually live whole life under depression.

Moreover, the workload of an employee in any given office can have a serious impact on the mind of the employee. The employee gets entrusted with overwork that often led to depression. One of the reasons is that the employee cannot do anything but obey the employers. The lack of proper rest, lack of proper social interaction, and lack of time with family and spouse often lead to a disturbed mind which in turn leads to disturbed relationships. With the helplessness at work, all these disturbing relationships lead to depression which often has serious consequences on the employee’s life.

Further, the expectation of family and society in someone’s life often serves as a huge challenge. A man in a family is expected to have a high income so that other family members can depend on him in times of need when he himself is struggling to get a proper job or startup. Sometimes, the pressure becomes so high that the expectations and pressures lead to depressing a mind. The fear of consequences for not meeting the expectations, and the fear of not being able to live up to people’s expectations also matter because our society judge us according to its observation instead of understanding the reality of one’s life, which are behind the scenes of one’s life.

Overcoming depression requires lots of attention, love, and care. The depressed man needs to be heard, he needs to be listened to without offering advice, and he needs to be cared for without condition. It is often impossible for the depressed guy to reveal his depression by himself. He needs to be given attention when he seems to be different. He needs to be reached by someone to overcome such a challenge. Sometimes when no one gives attention to such people, they often choose the other way round which is disastrous.

“DON’T OFFER LECTURE TO SOMEONE WHO NEEDS A HUG” is but the most needed approach of our society today. When someone commits a mistake, or not being cared for enough, or when faced troubles, they need a hug, not a lecture. They need to be heard, not advised. They need to be cared for, not ignored. They need to be loved, not ill-treated. God cares for each individual and He delivers the sufferings of depressed people. As God cares for each individual, so we should care for one another. Sometimes a sweet word can change lives, a small hug can inspire lives, and a hearing ear can transform lives. Let us do the possible and let God do the impossible!

PS: Feel free to drop in supplements and constructive criticisms.